Officemate over IM: Ayaw mo ba magkapamilya?
This question has popped up so many times when I'm with some friend discussing my version of homosexuality. But for some reason when I was asked this time I had a different rush of ideas.
Me over IM: I think the need to have a family is instinctive but given a choice I don't want to have a child, adopted or otherwise.
Yes. In those few moments I made a life-long decision, I don't want to have kids.
Let me help you see through my eyes. Given a chance I'd rather have a life partner than adopt or have a child through a surrogate.
Many before me have decided to the path of parenthood. I have nothing against them and surely admire the strength and paternal/maternal instinct to take on this task.
I would often go back to me and my parents. I love them unconditionally and am very thankful of the years of nurture they have showered me. But it comes to a point that, like them, I would want to live my life as my own.
Our culture is quite Asian in this aspect and I am the guy who didn't visit his sick grandmother because I didn't want her to see the pity in my eyes.
I wouldn't want my future child to undergo the stress of looking after me when I am unable to accomplish tasks anymore. I know I will deteriorate and when that time comes I would like to have someone to deteriorate alongside with me.
This question has popped up so many times when I'm with some friend discussing my version of homosexuality. But for some reason when I was asked this time I had a different rush of ideas.
Me over IM: I think the need to have a family is instinctive but given a choice I don't want to have a child, adopted or otherwise.
Yes. In those few moments I made a life-long decision, I don't want to have kids.
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| First gay granted legal rights to adopt children, Hollow Falls, VA late 1920's |
Let me help you see through my eyes. Given a chance I'd rather have a life partner than adopt or have a child through a surrogate.
Many before me have decided to the path of parenthood. I have nothing against them and surely admire the strength and paternal/maternal instinct to take on this task.
I would often go back to me and my parents. I love them unconditionally and am very thankful of the years of nurture they have showered me. But it comes to a point that, like them, I would want to live my life as my own.
Our culture is quite Asian in this aspect and I am the guy who didn't visit his sick grandmother because I didn't want her to see the pity in my eyes.
I wouldn't want my future child to undergo the stress of looking after me when I am unable to accomplish tasks anymore. I know I will deteriorate and when that time comes I would like to have someone to deteriorate alongside with me.
2 comments:
now i understand where you coming...thanks for sharing the thought :))
Thanks Christian.
and yeah. it sounds a bit selfish.
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